When i Like It, I'll Put a Title on It

So i was surfin the web tonight when i came across this article by this guy named Stuart McDonald. Don't know what possessed me to click on it, but i did. As i was reading it i couldn't help but find myself nodding in agreeance to everything that was being said. I found it a funny yet slightly informative read. check out this and many more of his articles on his blog.

Let me explain how I categorize the women in my life. You’re either a friend or your my girlfriend. If you’re not my girlfriend, you’re a friend. It’s that simple.

If you’re a friend, I may be attracted to you, feeling to you, or crushing on you, but until I TELL you something, you’re still just a friend. We may hang out on the regular and talk frequently but unless I have stated my intentions, don’t think there are any to pursue a relationship. I may just want to have fun.

If you don’t like to have fun, you may not want to be friends with me. It would be a shame not to have you as a friend, but if you’re going to bring around drama and foolishness thanks to your assumptions of where our relationship stands, I think I’ll be alright.

Do actions speak louder than words? In most cases, yes. In the case where you think I’m your boyfriend, but I’ve never verbalized the desire to be, no, actions do not speak louder than words. My silence should say it all. Sometimes one’s silence on an issue is more powerful than any words could be. This is one of those times.

If I don’t tell you that I’m interested in or attracted to you, you’d be best served by not getting too emotionally invested. Why? Because I’m a flirt. Most folks who know me would cosign. It’s easy to act like you’re in a relationship: you hang out, talk, hug, kiss, flirt, touch, cuddle, etc. And it’s not only easy, but it’s fun! Who doesn’t like to have fun? What’s not easy is being honest, laying your feelings on the table and actually committing to be in a relationship!

When I want a relationship with you; when I want more than a friendship, you’ll know. There will be no “maybe” floating around in your head; no second guessing anything. You will unequivocally know. How will you know? Because I will say something! What a revolutionary, mind blowing thought! I read a blog, 5 Mistakes Women Make, that elaborates on how men act in this regard:

When we are crazy about a woman, we are no longer the reserved and non emotional creatures you think we are. We become a mess – drooling internally when we think of you. We would never want you to feel you are on shaky ground concerning your status with us. We will publicly profess and show you to the whole world. We will put up a picture with you in it as the our profile pic, tag you in all photos you appear in and most importantly make sure that our status box shows that we are in a relationship with you. Yup, that’s what we do when we love you – we say it out LOUD! And when we are out and about with you, our professions are usually crystal clear: ‘Meet my girlfriend, Sandra’ or ‘Meet my fiance, Sandra.’ Not, ‘Meet Sandra’ who is Sandra??? When we love you, we want the world to know that we love you.

This concept seems simple enough, but somehow it so often gets twisted. What do you think? Guys, do you think the same way? Ladies, what about this concept is complex & misunderstood? Is it really just an issue that I have?